Take a hike! Or in my case, a bike!

By Wendy Johnstone
July 24, 2017

It’s that time again – summer holidays – and for myself, that meant a 6-day solo excursion to Oregon tackling some road cycling, enjoying some great new sights and recharging my batteries.   You can skip down to the end for some photos.

Before I left, I had several calls from caregivers wanting to take a few weekends away or needing respite from the person they were caring for. There can be a great deal of stress for both the caregivers and the person they are caring for when a holiday is being planned.  With holidays, typically comes unfamiliarity, new routines,  new people and sometimes new environments.  It can also cost money, create confusion and stress, especially when the person being cared for is resistant to change.  Caregivers can also feel guilty about taking time away.

Taking a break is really important for caregivers. Without enough time away from caregiving duties, feelings of resentment and burnout may present themselves more readily. Being able to trust someone else to take care of the person you are caring for or gaining clearer insight to the situation at hand and reconnecting with yourself and your family are just a few ways caregivers can benefit from a holiday.

Here are some tips to make “taking a hike” a little easier:

Clone yourself: OK, maybe not literally but do find a replacement caregiver or a network of support. It might be family or friends or you may decide to hire someone. It all depends on how much help and care is needed as well as the length of time away and financial resources available.

Schedule time for the caregiver to meet with the person being cared for prior to leaving. This provides an opportunity to increase comfort levels about you leaving and gives the caregiver additional comfort with the daily or weekly routine.

Checklists: It’s better to be over-prepared than under-prepared! Having detailed instructions for the caregiver will help ease your mind while you are away. Ask the care recipient to help you with it.

Financial matters: Make sure all bills are pre-paid and that cash can be accessed easily to meet expenses or emergency expenditures.

Emergency contact: Keep a list of emergency telephone numbers and places of where you are staying with the caregiver and another trusted source. It’s not a bad idea to call your aging loved one’s doctor, case manager or if they are in care the head nurse prior to leaving and let them know you will be travelling and how they can reach you in an emergency.   One tool I have that is super helpful is the my workbook which gives you a template for creating an emergency contact list and vital information on the person being cared for.  Click here to buy a copy.

Emergency plan: Talking about what needs to be done in a medical emergency such as a stroke or broken hip is important. A signed health care proxy or representation agreement should be in place and its whereabouts known.

Start early: Yes, that seems obvious! However, trips can sneak up on us quickly. We suggest to families to give themselves at least 4-6  months to plan for respite or to organize care, especially for the first time through.

Don’t spend every day feeling guilty about being away! Enjoy yourself knowing that you’ve planned ahead and the person you are caring for is in good hands.

 

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